Intuition Over Instruction

How I stopped following the rules and started trusting myself

I Forgot For a Minute…

Sometimes I forget it’s okay to do things my way.

Not the “approved” way. Not the way that looks polished or traditional or universally accepted. Just… my way.

I’ve spent years unlearning rules that never belonged to me in the first place, and still… still, I occasionally catch myself bending my magic to fit into someone else’s box. Even when I write spells or recipes, I notice myself adding in extra disclaimers or instructions “just in case” someone else needs it to fit their practice.

But the truth is… in my practice, I am the official. I am the magic. Not what some book off the shelf tells me, or an influencer on Instagram. My magic works best when I craft it myself or adjust it to fit my own rules. I listen to my intuition and do what feels right. And that is where I shine. That’s where the magic happens.

I’ve never been one to follow the rules, and I’ve always questioned the “why?” when it comes to being told I have to do something a specific way. I’m not sure why it took me so long to realize that doing magic my own way is what would level me up in a way I had never expected.

I sometimes need to remind myself that my way of doing things is not a lesser version. It’s not “wrong” or “too intuitive” or “not structured enough.” It’s sacred because it’s mine, and it’s what works for me.

And if following the books or the old ways makes someone else feel connected and safe, that’s just as valid, because we are all on our own individual paths. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with loving structure, tradition, or steps that feel rooted and time-tested. Some people thrive with clear outlines and ceremonial flow. I respect that deeply. But it took me years to realize that what works beautifully for others doesn’t always work best for me, and that’s okay too. I needed the space to find what feels real in my own hands, and I’m thankful for all I have learned along the way, even the things I tossed aside.

So I’m done shrinking my magic to make it easier to digest. I’m done writing like I need to apologize for how I work with energy or spirit, or because I don’t always follow the phase of the moon. I’m not here to follow someone else’s formula. I’m here to pour from my own source and create my own practice.

And I think the people who are meant to find this, they’re craving that kind of freedom too.

So from here on out, what I share will be how I actually do it. No extra fluff. No adjusting to make it more palatable. Just real, raw, intuitive magic. The way it lives in me.

Because that’s the most honest kind there is.

If you’re here with me on this journey back to myself, I appreciate you!

-Mello

What does your practice look like? Do you thrive in structure, chaos, a little of both? I love hearing about how others practice!